The Spring of Felicity: The Marriage of Rasulullah (ﷺ) and Syedah Khadijah
Bibi Khadijah was very known as Tahira (the Pure). She was also very wealthy and well-known in the Quraysh. Many chiefs, rich, and powerful people proposed to Hadrat Khadijah for marriage; however, she refused all of them. Syedah Khadijah was wealthy and powerful herself; however, she wanted to marry someone who was spiritually wealthy, someone with the best of character, the best of lineages, and the purest of hearts: Sayyidinah Rasulullah (ﷺ).
Syedah Khadijah had heard only good things about the Prophet (ﷺ). Even though he had not even started his mission of teaching and showing people Islam, he was the most truthful, honest, and upright person- always radiating light. She came to know of Rasulullah (ﷺ) more after he had done some business and trading for her in different parts of Arabia. After seeing his honesty first hand, Syedah Khadijah wanted to see if Sayyidinah Rasulullah (ﷺ) was interested in marriage. So she sent her close friend, Nufaysah bin Munyah, to ask the opinion of the Prophet (ﷺ) regarding marriage. The rest of the story up until the marriage ceremony carries on from the words of Hadrat Nufaysah:
“Khadijah was a brave, wise, and gentle lady. She was the best in her lineage, the best in her piety, and more prosperous then all of the people. All the gentlemen from her tribe were yearning to marry her, but they were of no avail. When the Prophet (ﷺ) returned from Syria, she appointed me to get his opinion regarding his marriage. So I was sent to the Prophet (ﷺ) to ask him as to why he doesn’t get married (as Rasulullah (ﷺ) was not married at this time nor was he ever married before). The Prophet (ﷺ) told me that he had no money to spend on marriage. I said to him, ‘You need not worry about it for I take responsibility if Your Honor accepts the invitation to beauty, honor, and prosperity.’
The Prophet (ﷺ) asked as to whom I hinted to. I said, ‘Khadijah.’ The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ‘How is it possible for me?’ I went back to the house of Khadijah where, with pleasure, I apprised of the conversation. She promptly invited the Prophet (ﷺ) to her house. After conversing with the Prophet (ﷺ), when she believed Prophet (ﷺ) would not reject her offer, she said to him, ‘O son of my uncle! I like you for you are my kin. Your glory is high in your nation. The trust, the noble conduct, and the truthfulness are distinct virtues of you.’ And then, she disclosed to the Prophet (ﷺ) her inner intention (of marriage), to which the Prophet (ﷺ) agreed with earnestly. This was the betrothal, not the contract of marriage (that had taken place).
After mutual consent, Hadrat Khadijah urged the Prophet (ﷺ) to send his uncle Abu Ta’lib to them. On the next day, Hadrat Abu Ta’lib met Hadrat Khadijah who entreated him to contact her uncle and propose to her for his beloved nephew. Hadrat Abu Ta’lib expressed his pleasure saying, ‘This is but a miracle from God.’ Thus, with the consent of the elders of both families, the blessed marriage was (set).”
On the fixed date, the chiefs of the Mozir tribe and the gentlemen of Makkah gathered together at the house of Hadrat Khadijah. Omar bin Asad, her uncle, was appointed as her council, and Hadrat Abu Ta’lib for the Prophet (ﷺ). Hadrat Abu Ta’lib gave an eloquent and moving sermon:
“All praises are for Allah, Who made us from the descendants of Ibrahim, from the cultivation of Isma’il, from the generation of Ma’d, and from the origin of Mozer. He appointed us as the guard and administrator of His House. He gave us a House to which people come for pilgrimage. He provided us with a Haram, in which is found peace and tranquility. He made us the rulers of the people.
After the praise, this is my nephew, whose name is Muhammad bin Abdullah. If he is compared with even the greatest personality of the world, the balance would go in his favor. If he is not rich, it does not matter, for richness is a shadow very prompt to disappear; it is a fast changing thing. And Muhammad whose relations you know, proposed to Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, and fixed twelve and a half Oqiah gold as her Mehr (dowry). And by God! In the future, his glory will be elevated, and he will be very highly respected.”
After Hadrat Abu Ta’lib had delivered his sermon, Waraqah bin Naufal, the first cousin of Bibi Khadijah, went and delivered a sermon in response:
“All praises are for Allah, who bestowed us with the honors and gifts you have spoken of and blessed us with the reverences you have reckoned so we are the leaders and the rulers of the entire Arabia. And all these virtues are attributed to you as well. No one, from the men of tribes, refutes your dignity and glory. We yearn to get into a relation with you. O Chiefs of the clans of Quraysh! Be witness, I have married Khadijah with Muhammad bin Abdullah.”
At this, Hadrat Abu Ta’lib said he wanted the uncles of Hadrat Khadijah to say something as well. So her uncle, Omar spoke, “O clans of Quraysh! Be witness, I have performed the Nikkah of Khadijah with Muhammad, and to this effect, the chiefs of the Quraysh are the witnesses.”
It was the first marriage of the Prophet (ﷺ), and it concluded in splendor and glory; it would prove a spring of blessings and bliss until the resurrection. It was at this that al-Tahirah-the pure-(Syedah Khadijah), married As-Siddiq Al-Ameen-the Truthful and the Trustworthy-(Sayyidinah Rasulullah (ﷺ)).
The arrival of Syedah Khadijah sparked a very joyous revolution in the blessed life of Rasulullah (ﷺ). The love and service Hadrat Khadijah rendered to the Prophet (ﷺ) filled the vacuum that the passing of his mother, Bibi Aminah, had left in his life. Bibi Khadijah loved Rasulullah (ﷺ) so much that she eagerly offered her property and life for him. She was always thankful to Rasulullah (ﷺ) for his kindness in accepting her. Allah had selected Bibi Khadijah to be the other half of His beloved Prophet (ﷺ), and from her pure womb were born 3 sons and 4 daughters, the last of whom was the only one to outlive her father: The Queen of the Women of Paradise– Bibi Fatimah Az-Zahra Al-Batool (Salaamun ‘Alayha).
[Zia un Nabi]